Esther (Ellen) Gendelman

Therapist, MS, LPC

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Esther (Ellen) Gendelman

Why Esther (Ellen) Gendelman chose to be in the helping profession

Jewish therapist & coach in Toms River, NJ

Esther Gendelman MS, LPC, CPC is a licensed psychotherapist and certified professional coach who specializes in working with relationships. A veteran educator, and speaker, she has a passion for helping people grow and maximize their potential. Close connections make life meaningful; without them, life is dark and lonely. We all deserve to have someone believe in us, advocating and cheering for our success to be all that we can be. A positive, nurturing approach focusing on identifying and building strengths works more successfully than focusing only on the areas of weakness. Personal growth stems from caring, nurturing relationships.

From infancy and throughout our life span, we all need a smile and the feeling that we matter to someone. Without that emotional validation, we shrivel up and die inside even when our physical needs are met. In the absence of loving companionship, no matter what we achieve in life, there is a sense of loneliness.

What if you found gold while on a deserted island? How long would the initial blast of happiness last without being able to share the discovery?

As a veteran educator of elementary through high school students for over twenty-five years, she had the privilege of working with parents, teachers, and students. Successful people developed the capacity to create and sustain healthy and respectful relationships.​

In her service as a principal for over ten years, the same truth manifested yet even more starkly. And, in her work as a mental health professional for the last ten years, she observed that peace of mind, optimism, and resilience correlate significantly with secure, loving relationships.

​You deserve to feel loved and cherished. Give yourself the gift of transformation.

Frum therapist & coach serving the Jewish community in Toms River, NJ


  • Attachment-based
  • Coaching
  • Cognitive Behavioral (CBT)
  • Compassion Focused
  • Dialectical (DBT)
  • Eclectic
  • EMDR
  • Emotionally Focused
  • Gottman Method
  • Internal Family Systems (IFS)
  • Positive Psychology
  • Strength-Based


  • ADHD
  • Anger Management
  • Codependency
  • Dating
  • Depression
  • Divorce/Separation
  • Family Dynamics
  • Mood Disorders
  • Obesity
  • Parenting
  • Premarital counseling
  • Relationships
  • Religious Identity Issues
  • School & academic challenges
  • Social Skills
  • Transitions & Change
  • Trauma

Languages spoken


People I work with

Adolescents (13-18) Adults Individuals Families Groups Couples

Personal religious affiliations


Esther (Ellen) Gendelman's experience working with the Jewish community


200 Jumping Brook Dr

14 years in practice


MS Counseling and Human Services by Indiana University 2005


Excellence in Counseling ( graduate award) by IUSB faculty 2005
Excellence in Jewish education by Grinspoon-Steinhardt 2005


Life Coaching completion and hired as mastercoach by Livingston Coaching 2014
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy by ICEEFT board 2015
EMDR certified by EMDRIA 2018
DBT ( 80 hour training) by Dr Charlie Swenson 2019


active member by EMDRIA 2018
active member by ICEEFT 2015

Average costs per session


Payment Methods

  • Cash
  • Check
  • Credit Card

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