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My self-harm urges are way out of control.

This is a trigger warning question: My self-harm urges are way out of control. My therapist and psychiatrist are aware of this, but l'd like to hear what a mental health…

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Can you be yourself in therapy?

One tasks of therapy is to develop deeper self compassion and acceptance. In order for this to happen you need to feel that your therapist has authentic compassion for, and…

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How to navigate shidduchim as a newbie?

Hi Fay! I admire your work. I've recently started shidduchim and there's people saying to look into someone, l have my own personal feelings about it, but i don't want…

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I'm struggling with my Dad...please help!

Many things my dad does get me irritable. Loud chewing/ crunching/talking loudly on the phone. I'm super sensitive to noises. He gets angry at me fast. This creates a tense…

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How to help my friend start over in Israel?

Hi Fay! My friend lives in a toxic household and she needs to get out. She wants to go to Isreal. She is 20 years old and has no one…

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I have social anxiety and tried everything...

I have social anxiety. I am afraid of silences during conversations... and therefore avoid them altogether. Having a stutter complicates things. I've tried many meds and therapies to almost no…

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I'm 39 married b'h. Dealing with social anxiety. I'm afraid of people...

I'm 39 married b'h. I didn't had easy childhood went through trauma. Dealing w/t social anxiety. (I did CBT & EMDR route my problem I feel rejected.) didn't make friends…

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I enjoy work mostly, but when I get home, I crash & feel lonely

I enjoy work mostly, but when I get home, I crash - I feel very lonely and empty inside - like I need a booster -caffeine. And then even after…

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My relationship with my mom is making me very sad

I've been having lately lots of arguments with my mother and we haven't been getting along and it's been making me very sad. I used to get along with her…

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Feeling like a failure without a driver's license

I'm 35 & don't have my driver's license. Parents didnt drive so thought " no way to practice." & " live in Brooklyn & dont need it." Now, so hard…

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How to deal with severe anxiety?

i've been struggling with severe anxiety for the past few weeks, can you help me figure out a way to deal with it? I'm not managing my day to day…

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Maintaining Therapeutic Gains

Maintaining Therapeutic Gains by Gershon Basch, LCSW, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW

When Jacob* had started seeing me, he had been in a pretty good place. He had just stopped with his previous therapist, who was moving out of the area. He…

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Dependency in Therapy

Dependency in Therapy by Shayna Shafier, MHC-LP, Mental Health Counselor, Limited Permit

Am I too dependent on my therapist?         This is a question that many people in therapy find themselves asking. Especially people with a history of attachment wounding…

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ASK Fay #4: How to deal with my different parts that show up?

Thank you Fay for all that you do. How do I deal with my different parts that show up (like anxious part, anger part, depression part, hopeless part) I'm in…

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ASK Fay: How can I feel empowered - not victimized?

How can I feel empowered and not victimized when s/t that I x like happens. I'm not thrilled at all w paying for this, and have a lot of resentment/anger…

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ASK Fay: What to do when triggered in public and can't cry it out?

Hi Fay, thanks for this opportunity! Any tips for what to do when i get triggered in public and cant leave? BH have tools, but it normally involves crying it…

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ASK Fay: How can I help my daughter with her career?

My daughter is X a strong student. She needed P3 & got a local diploma. Seminary is hard, got some credits. College will be hard, maybe too hard. Is there…

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How to Improve Your Sex Life

How to Improve Your Sex Life by Eric Rosenblum, LMFT, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

One common reason couples come to see me is that they want to improve their sex lives. Often times, one partner wants sex more than the other. The reasons why…

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Fear & Expecting in NYC

Fear & Expecting in NYC by Eric Rosenblum, LMFT, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

Lots of couples seek therapy when they start planning for a family. It makes sense: the prospect of having a child brings up new and long-standing issues in couples.  …

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Kafka, Existential Psychotherapy, & the Search for Meaning

Kafka, Existential Psychotherapy, & the Search for Meaning by Eric Rosenblum, LMFT, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

In his stories, novels, and parables, Franz Kafka captures how strange, hard, and bewildering it is to be alive. He writes about the feeling of being too late, that one…

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Communication, Couples Therapy, & the Weekly Walk

Communication, Couples Therapy, & the Weekly Walk by Eric Rosenblum, LMFT, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

I give homework to couples therapy clients after our first session, and it’s usually pretty basic. I might encourage couples to establish a weekly meeting where they divvy up domestic…

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