Esti Altman

All feelings are welcome. Not all behaviors are.

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Why Esti Altman chose to be in the helping profession

I chose this work because I lived it first. Years ago, I found myself caught in constant power struggles with my children, reacting in ways I would later regret, and sinking into cycles of shame and guilt. I would promise myself I would do better tomorrow, only to repeat the same patterns again and again. I had read all the books and knew what I “should” say or do, yet nothing seemed to truly change.

Over time, I realized the challenge wasn’t a lack of strategies, but a nervous system still wired for survival. As I began to heal my own trauma through nervous system work and learned how to regulate my body, everything started to shift in my parenting. I discovered firsthand how powerful embodied regulation can be in transforming family dynamics. Today, I guide parents in breaking generational cycles, helping them cultivate awareness, regulation, and deeper connection with their children.

Esti Altman's approach

My approach begins with identifying the root cause behind a child’s behavior and a parent’s reactions. Children are not trying to give us a hard time, they are having a hard time. Many parents are given scripts and strategies, but when stress rises, those tools often fly out the window because the nervous system takes over. Most parenting strategies fail because they focus on correcting behavior without addressing the nervous system driving it.

In our work together, I help parents understand what is happening beneath their reactions and uncover the deeper patterns shaping their responses. Through somatic nervous system work, we address these root causes so parents can learn to regulate their bodies and stay grounded during challenging moments. Once that foundation is in place, I guide parents through my three-step framework of empathy, boundaries, and autonomy. This approach helps parents hold clear leadership while maintaining connection with their children.

We also focus on creating structures and systems that support cooperation, so even chaotic moments can become more manageable and connected. Finally, we build a practical toolbox of strategies parents can use in real-life moments, including meltdowns, defiance, sibling conflict, and everyday stress. These tools allow parents to move away from yelling, threatening, or bribing and respond with calm authority and connection. The ultimate goal is helping families experience more cooperation, peace, and confidence in their daily interactions.

What you can expect from sessions with Esti Altman

In our sessions, you can expect honesty, depth, and practical support. The focus is on helping you develop the inner steadiness needed to lead your home with calm authority, even in the moments that feel most challenging.

Together, we’ll explore the triggers and patterns that pull you into reactions you later regret. Without shame or blame, we work with the body and nervous system to help you regulate in real time, so you can stay grounded instead of overwhelmed. You’ll gain a deeper understanding of both your nervous system and your child’s, learning practical tools and strategies you can apply immediately in everyday parenting moments—from meltdowns and defiance to sibling conflict, morning routine chaos, and the daily stresses of family life.

Most importantly, you won’t have to navigate these challenges alone. My role is to support you as you build the confidence, clarity, and connection needed to move through parenting with more calm, cooperation, and trust in yourself. Over time, many parents notice they react less, feel more in control, and experience more moments of genuine connection with their children.

Esti Altman's experience working with the Jewish community

I’ve had the privilege of working with families from many different backgrounds and levels of observance within the Jewish community. What I deeply value is the richness and diversity within our community, along with the shared commitment parents have to raising their children with love, connection, and strong values.

In my work, I meet people exactly where they are. I don’t approach parenting through judgment or assumptions about religious practice. I see people as souls first, and my focus is on helping parents transform their relationships with their children. Together, we work to respond with greater calm, connection, and awareness, rather than falling into patterns that lead to regret.

Esti Altman's Book Recommendation Zone

• The Explosive Child by Dr. Green
  The Explosive Child explains that children who have intense outbursts do so because they lack certain skills like flexibility, frustration tolerance, and problem solving not because they are willfully defiant. The book introduces a collaborative approach that helps parents and caregivers work with children to identify triggers and solve problems proactively instead of relying on punishment.
• Nonviolent Communication by Marshal Rosenberg
  Marshall Rosenberg teaches a compassionate way of speaking and listening that helps people express themselves honestly, hear others with empathy, and reduce conflict by focusing on needs rather than blame or judgment. The book presents a simple four part process: observations, feelings, needs, and requests that fosters deeper connection and more peaceful, cooperative relationships in all areas of life.
• Managing Emotional Mayhem by Dr. Becky A. Bailey
  Dr. Becky Bailey teaches adults how to understand and manage their own emotional reactions and then use that awareness to help children learn self-regulation through a five-step process. The book lays a conceptual foundation, challenges limiting beliefs, and offers practical skills for fostering emotional control and coaching kids toward healthier ways of handling strong feelings.

Approaches

• Attachment-based
• Body Code
• Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
• Hypnotherapy
• Inner child work
• Internal Family Systems (IFS)
• Neuro-Linguistic (NLP)
• Positive Psychology
• Somatic Therapy
• Trauma Focused Therapy

Concerns

• Emotion regulation
• Parenting
• Relationships
• Stress management
• Transitions & Change
• Trauma

7 years in practice

Degrees

• Child Development Associates by Counsel for professional recognition 2016

Certificates

• Child Development Associates by Counsel for professional recognition 2016
• Emotional mapping technique by Aaron Washburn 2024
• Neurolinguistic Programing by Annie Porter 2024

Trainings

• Nervous system integration by Tanya Levy 2024
• Conscious homeschool coach by Sara Benabou 2023
• Body regulation by Stevie Wright 2024
• Collaborative problem solving by Fran Rubio 2023
• Conscious Parenting by Blimie Heller 2018
• Emotion capacity expansion by Sheina Raskin 2024
• Shame and guilt resolution by Shoshana Raven 2024
• Somatic embodiment by Aaron Washburn 2024
• Limiting beliefs by Tony Robbins 2022
• Body safety & healthy sexuality education by Elisheva Liss 2020

Average costs per session

$200 - $3000

Payment Methods

• Free consultation
• Credit Card
• Zelle Quick Pay