Chaim Fishof

K.I.S.S. "Keep it Simple Smarty" ;)

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Why Chaim Fishof chose to be in the helping profession

I’m smiling as I write this because the truth is...I believe it didn’t choose it, It chose me.

In 2003, after 2 years of learning in Kollel, I set out into my career (of 20 years) in Commercial Real Estate. Rewind to 1999, when I was at Touro College, and my Psychology professor convinced me to drop the idea of becoming a Psy.D. He told me it would mess with my head. At the time, I had wanted to help "teens at risk" in the Frum community.

In 1998, in my Yeshiva dorms, i was introduced to internet chat rooms. From then on, while learning, davening and going through life in yeshiva, I was living a double life (filled with inner shame), trying my hardest to overcome my "Yetzer Hara" and "nisyanos".

Fast forward to the 2008 real estate crash and financial crisis—my life started falling apart. No amount of Teshuva, Tefillah or Tzedaka had helped and everything I had learned and tried backfired. I felt helpless and hopeless.

By May 2010, I had completely “crashed and burned.” I was heading toward divorce and still in total denial that I was an addict. By July 2010, I finally admitted it—I was an addict—and I didn’t want to live anymore. My therapist along with Rabbi Abraham Twerski, MD, convinced me to go to rehab, and I agreed.

In September 2010, I went to rehab. A few days after coming back, I relapsed. That’s when my recovery journey really began.

In 2016, I completed the CCAR Recovery Coaching Certification Course. At the time, I didn’t do it to become a coach; I did it for the education, the experience, and to add more tools to my tool belt. It never even occurred to me that I’d use it professionally one day.

Covid 2020, came with difficult mental health challenges for many, especially those already dealing with mental illness. I started coaching during this time, but I was faced with both the challenges of growing my practice anonymously as I wasn't ready to be as visible as I am today.

Over the past 14 years, I’ve seen more and more Frum Jews struggle to get the help they need to recover. Many leave recovery saying it’s not for them, that it’s too hard. Some justify acting out, and others just give up. They go through so much unnecessary pain and suffering without getting the healing they deserve.

Too often, they’re told they aren’t taking recovery seriously enough or aren’t working their program hard enough. But I’ve found that those aren’t usually the real issues. In fact, the solution is often the opposite of what they’re told.

(Even if someone tells You that Your not a "sex addict" or "sexaholic" You are not alone and there is a solution.)

That’s why I’m here today—because I’ve lived this journey, and I’ve seen the need. I’m committed to helping others find their way to real recovery and healing.

Chaim Fishof's approach

My coaching philosophy is simple: clarity and simplicity are key to achieving success. I’ve seen too many people struggle in recovery, and my mission is to change that.

I work with my clients to transform their health as quickly and efficiently as possible, while also ensuring these changes are sustainable. Together, we build a foundation for living their best lives—one day at a time—with mindfulness, emotional awareness, intention, purpose, and connection. This approach fosters self-acceptance, self-love, and confidence, creating a ripple effect of growth and healing.

I’m results-driven and progress-focused. My methods combine modern, science-based approaches with 12-Step Principles in what I call a Hybrid 12-Step Principled Trauma-Informed Recovery Model. This unique framework integrates the latest research with timeless principles, ensuring clients receive a balanced, effective approach to their recovery. (Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski, Dr Patrick Carnes, Bessel Van Der Kolk, Richard Schwartz, Peter Levine, Janina Fisher, Tony Robbins, Charles Duhigg to name a few).

NEUROPLASTICITY
Science has shown that the first 90 to 180 days of recovery are critical for the brain and body to heal and regrow healthy neuro-pathways as the foundation for successful recovery. My work is grounded in this understanding, providing the structure and support clients need to navigate this vital period successfully.

What you can expect from sessions with Chaim Fishof

I offer a variety of formats, including 1-on-1 Transformations, Groups, Bootcamps, and Hybrid options. Currently, 95% of my sessions are held via Zoom or phone, with plans to add more in-person sessions and an in person group in February 2025.

In the initial sessions, we focus on understanding your current situation and creating a clear blueprint for your recovery journey. Together, we’ll identify what’s keeping you stuck and begin working toward your goals, whether that’s achieving recovery success, healing relationships, or restoring balance in your life.

Our sessions are hands-on and results-focused, particularly in the first few months. During this time, we’ll delve into your behavior patterns and cycles, identify and remove blocks, and focus on 3 key areas that we’ll track and measure for success.

I teach practical tools and exercises, including meditation, breathwork, and learning how to find stillness—skills that help with daily emotional regulation. You’ll also learn to become a “Master Mechanic” of your recovery, equipped with a toolkit of proven techniques from the 12-Step Model, somatic practices, and other science-backed methods, all with the guiding principle of “Take the Best and Leave the Rest.”

Some sessions may be directive and intensive, focusing on breaking through obstacles, while others might center on reviewing the past week, solving challenges, and preparing for the week ahead. Every step is tailored to ensure you’re supported, empowered, and making progress toward sustainable recovery and transformation.

Chaim Fishof's experience working with the Jewish community

Working with the Jewish community is deeply meaningful and spiritually aligned with my purpose. Helping Jewish men and women heal and recover—breaking free from pain, obsession, guilt, and shame—is not just my mission; it’s my calling. As Joseph told his Brothers in Egypt, "I was Sent".

Addressing the unique challenges our community faces, particularly with technology and sex addiction, is some of the most rewarding work I’ve ever done. Watching my clients find freedom and rediscover their strength fills me with gratitude and purpose.

For me, my clients aren’t just clients—we’re family, connected by a shared journey of healing, growth, and transformation. This connection drives me to give my all to this work every single day.

Chaim Fishof's Book Recommendation Zone

• Out of the Shadows
• Addictive Thinking
• Overcoming Trauma through Yoga
• No Bad Parts
• The Body Keeps The Score
• Paths to Recovery
• The Artists Way

Concerns

• Addiction
• ADHD
• Anxiety
• Body image
• Codependency
• Crisis Intervention
• Dating
• Depression
• Diet and Nutrition
• Dissociative disorders
• Divorce/Separation
• Emotion regulation
• Life purpose and meaning
• Obesity
• Oppositional defiance disorder
• Pain Management
• Parenting
• Relationships
• Religious Identity Issues
• Self-Harm/Suicidality
• Skin picking (excoriation)
• Stress management
• Testing and Evaluation
• Transitions & Change
• Trauma

4 years in practice

Degrees

• BA in Psychology by Touro College 2000
• MS in Real Estate Certificate, Finance & Investment by New York University (NYU) 2006
• NYU, MS in Real Estate Candidate by NYU 2005-2009
• BA in Talmudic Law by Shor Yoshuv 1998-2002

Certificates

• CCAR Recovery Coaching Training Certificate by Connecticut Community for Addiction Recovery (CCAR) 2016

Trainings

• Frontiers of Trauma Treatment (in-person) by Bessel Van Der Kolk, MD 2014
• Yoga in Psychotherapy of Traumatized Clients by Dana Moore 2014
• Sex Addiction and Couples Therapy by Lew Abrams 2013

Affiliations

• Member by JACS 2011- 2016
• Member by Frum Divorce 2012- 2022

Average costs per session

$100 - $12000

Payment Methods

• Sliding Scale
• Free consultation
• Cash
• Check
• Credit Card
• Zelle Quick Pay