Sarede Rachel Switzer, Certified Coach

I love and accept myself exactly as I am. And even if I don’t fully accept myself right now, I accept that about myself too.

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Why Sarede Rachel Switzer, Certified Coach chose to be in the helping profession

Many people might be surprised by the idea of a single woman becoming a dating coach. It is easy to assume that if I am not married yet, I must not be able to help others. I understand that reaction, and I used to think something similar myself. But over time, I have come to see that my very long single-hood has given me a unique perspective and a real ability to be of service to others who are navigating the same journey.

As an older single in the Jewish community, I am deeply attuned to the struggles that Jewish singles face today, and as we all know, there are many. My years of dating have taught me so much about myself, about relationships, and about what actually matters when meeting someone new. In casual conversations with other single friends, I somehow became the unofficial armchair dating coach, probably because of both my extensive dating history and the many books on relationships and dating that I have read over the years. Again and again, friends told me that my insights were helpful and that I should really consider becoming a dating coach. So here we are.

One thing I feel strongly about is that not being married yet means I do not claim to have all the answers. I do not pretend to know the exact formula for what makes a relationship work or precisely what every single person should be looking for. What I offer is grounded in experience, reflection, curiosity, and humility. It also means my coaching is not shaped or limited by my own marriage story, the way even well-meaning married coaches can sometimes be. Instead, I meet each person where they are, without assumptions, and with genuine understanding for how complex and tender this process can be.

Sarede Rachel Switzer, Certified Coach's approach

I believe that every individual already carries the answers they need within themselves. Over the years, I have seen again and again how much clarity people actually have once they are given the space to pause, reflect, and listen to their own inner voice. There is something powerful about being witnessed without pressure or judgment, and I consider it a privilege to help someone reconnect with their own sense of knowing. So much of coaching is simply creating room for what is already there.

In my view, the role of a coach is not to hand over solutions or tell someone how to live their life. Instead, it is to draw out the client’s own internal wisdom through questioning, deep listening, mirroring, and gentle guidance. When a person feels heard, understood, and supported, they naturally begin to access parts of themselves that may have been quiet for a long time. My work is to help clients tap into that clarity, trust themselves more fully, and move forward with confidence in the decisions that feel right for them.

What you can expect from sessions with Sarede Rachel Switzer, Certified Coach

While I would never promise to “get you married,” because only Hashem can write that part of your story, I do hope to help you stay grounded and as sane as possible throughout the dating journey. Dating can feel overwhelming, confusing, and even draining at times, and my goal is to help you find more clarity about what you truly want and how to navigate the “dating game” with a healthier mindset. Together we focus on reducing the stress, strengthening your self-awareness, and bringing more intention into each step you take. I believe you deserve to date from a place of confidence and calm, not pressure and panic.

Our work might touch on a wide range of areas, depending on what you need. This can include refining what you are looking for in a partner, both for yourself and for the people who are trying to set you up. It might involve figuring out how to move through apps, singles events, shadchanim, and even all the WhatsApp groups without losing yourself in the process. Sometimes we work on updating your dating profile or resume so it truly reflects who you are. Other times the focus is on discovering creative ways to meet new people and expand your social circle, which often expands your dating pool naturally.

We may also explore things like overcoming dating anxiety and learning how to show up as your authentic, best self on dates. Many clients want support in deciding whether to continue dating someone, or how to maintain healthy boundaries with themselves and with others. And of course, there are moments when you may be trying to figure out if it is the right time—or not—to take a leap toward commitment or engagement. Underneath all of these questions is something even bigger: learning how to let go, trust, and allow Hashem to guide the process, knowing that there is a Higher Plan tailored exactly for you.

Sarede Rachel Switzer, Certified Coach's experience working with the Jewish community

Aside from growing up in a Jewish community in Montreal and now living in a Jewish community in Crown Heights, I also spend a lot of time connected to other Jewish communities through my day job. I work closely with individuals in Williamsburg, Borough Park, and many other neighborhoods as part of the work I do matching clients with fitness instructors. Over the years, this has given me a real window into the nuances, values, and expectations across different parts of the Jewish world. I feel grateful to have such a broad understanding of our communities, because it allows me to meet clients where they are with a sense of familiarity and respect.

These experiences have helped me better understand the challenges, hopes, and pressures that Jewish singles carry, no matter which community they come from. I see the similarities and the differences, and I’ve noticed how much people simply want to feel seen, understood, and guided in a way that reflects their background and reality. The work I do every day continually reminds me how diverse and rich our community is, and it informs the way I show up as a coach. It keeps me sensitive, grounded, and connected to the lived experiences of the people I’m supporting.

Sarede Rachel Switzer, Certified Coach's Book Recommendation Zone

• How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk: The Foolproof Way to Follow Your Heart Without Losing Your Mind by John Van Epp
  Based on years of research on marital and premarital happiness, How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk will help you break destructive dating patterns that have kept you from finding the love you deserve. With this book, you will learn how to: Ask the right questions to inspire meaningful, revealing conversations with your partner Judge character based on compatibility, relationship skills, friends, and patterns from family and previous relationships Resolve your own emotional baggage so you're ready for a healthy relationship.
• Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix Ph.D.
  Originally published in 1988, Getting the Love You Want has helped millions of couples attain more loving, supportive, and deeply satisfying relationships. The 20th anniversary edition contains extensive revisions to this groundbreaking book, with a new chapter, new exercises, and a foreword detailing Dr. Hendrix’s updated philosophy for eliminating allnegativity from couples’ daily interactions, allowing readers of the 2008 edition to benefit from his ongoing discoveries during his last two decades of work. Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., in partnership with his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD., originated Imago Relationship Therapy, a unique healing process for couples, prospective couples, and parents. Together they have more than thirty years’ experience as educators and therapists and their work has been translated into more than 50 languages, with Imago practiced by two thousand therapists worldwide. Harville and Helen have six children and live in New York and New Mexico.
• The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael A. Singer
  What would it be like to free yourself from limitations and soar beyond your boundaries? What can you do each day to discover inner peace and serenity? The Untethered Soul offers simple yet profound answers to these questions. Whether this is your first exploration of inner space, or you’ve devoted your life to the inward journey, this book will transform your relationship with yourself and the world around you. You’ll discover what you can do to put an end to the habitual thoughts and emotions that limit your consciousness. By tapping into traditions of meditation and mindfulness, author and spiritual teacher Michael A. Singer shows how the development of consciousness can enable us all to dwell in the present moment and let go of painful thoughts and memories that keep us from achieving happiness and self-realization. Copublished with the Institute of Noetic Sciences (IONS) The Untethered Soul begins by walking you through your relationship with your thoughts and emotions, helping you uncover the source and fluctuations of your inner energy. It then delves into what you can do to free yourself from the habitual thoughts, emotions, and energy patterns that limit your consciousness. Finally, with perfect clarity, this book opens the door to a life lived in the freedom of your innermost being. The Untethered Soul has already touched the lives of more than a million readers, and is available in a special hardcover gift edition with ribbon bookmark—the perfect gift for yourself, a loved one, or anyone who wants a keepsake edition of this remarkable book. Visit www.untetheredsoul.com for more information.

Approaches

• Attachment-based
• Breathwork
• Doula Services
• Imago Therapy
• Life Coaching
• Logotherapy
• Yoga

Concerns

• Anxiety
• Body image
• Codependency
• Dating
• Diet and Nutrition
• Emotion regulation
• Life purpose and meaning
• Panic attacks/panic disorder
• Relationships
• Stress management

1 years in practice

Degrees

• BSc, Psychology by McGill University 2003

Certificates

• Certified Life Coach by Viktor Frankl Transformational Life-Coaching Program 2025

Average costs per session

$125 - $150

Payment Methods

• Free consultation
• Credit Card
• Zelle Quick Pay
• Venmo
• PayPal