Sury Klein, LMSW

You don't look traumatized. You look successful, dependable, capable. But underneath, your nervous system rarely feels safe.

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Sury Klein, LMSW's style

Why Sury Klein, LMSW chose to be in the helping profession

You want closeness but find yourself pulling away. You replay conversations for hours, feel emotionally overwhelmed by conflict, or suddenly go numb when relationships start feeling too vulnerable.

On the outside, people may see you as capable, independent, or “fine.” Internally, your nervous system rarely feels settled.

Many people I work with tell me, "Nothing terrible happened, so I don't know why I struggle so much." But complex trauma isn't always about one event. Sometimes it's the experience of growing up without consistent emotional safety, where love, approval, or connection felt unpredictable. Over time, you learn to stay alert, protect itself, and expect danger even when you're safe.

Therapy helps us understand what your system learned, why these patterns developed, and how to create new ways of relating to yourself and others without shame.

If you’ve been functioning for a long time while quietly struggling underneath, you are not alone.

Sury Klein, LMSW's approach

You may have spent years wondering what's wrong with you.

Maybe relationships feel harder than they should. You replay conversations for hours. You notice yourself people-pleasing, emotionally shutting down, becoming hyper-independent, or feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions. Even when life is going well, your body rarely feels calm. You may feel disconnected from yourself, like you're watching life instead of living it, or struggle to access your emotions until they suddenly overwhelm you.

Many of the people I work with don't identify with a single traumatic event. Instead, they grew up adapting to environments where love, safety, or emotional connection felt unpredictable. Over time those adaptations become the way your nervous system learns to survive.

Nothing about these responses means you're broken.

They make sense.

What you can expect from sessions with Sury Klein, LMSW

I specialize in Complex Trauma (C-PTSD), childhood emotional neglect, abuse, attachment wounds, and the long-term effects of growing up in survival mode.

I help adults who constantly overthink, emotionally shut down, struggle to trust others, lose themselves in relationships, feel responsible for everyone, or carry a deep sense that something is wrong with them even when they can't explain why.

Together we'll get curious about the protective parts of you that learned to overthink, stay busy, shut down, numb out, or keep everyone happy. I don't see these reactions as evidence that something is wrong with you. I see them as evidence that your system learned to adapt.

Sury Klein, LMSW's experience working with the Jewish community

I am an Orthodox Jewish therapist with experience working in and alongside the Jewish community, while deeply respecting and welcoming individuals from all religious and cultural backgrounds. I understand the unique complexities that can arise when trauma, addiction, sexual abuse, or intimacy concerns intersect with faith, modesty, and communal expectations.

These experiences are often layered, shaped by personal pain as well as the values and pressures of a close-knit community. I approach this work with sensitivity, awareness, and deep respect for how faith and identity can influence both suffering and healing.

My goal is to provide culturally sensitive, trauma-informed care where difficult topics can be explored without fear of judgment, dismissal, or having to choose between one’s faith and one’s healing. Together, we work thoughtfully and collaboratively to support growth, clarity, and integrity within the context of what matters most to each individual.

Sury Klein, LMSW's Book Recommendation Zone

• No Bad Parts
  A powerful introduction to Internal Family Systems (IFS), offering a non-shaming way to understand the different “parts” of ourselves. This book helps readers approach inner conflict, trauma, and coping strategies with curiosity and compassion.
• Good Inside
  A reassuring and validating read centered on the belief that people are inherently good. While written through a parenting lens, its core message about self-worth, repair, and emotional safety resonates deeply with adults doing their own healing work.
• Hold Me Tight
  A foundational book on emotionally focused relationships, helping individuals and couples understand attachment, emotional needs, and patterns of connection. Especially helpful for those wanting to strengthen intimacy and communication.

Approaches

• Art Therapy
• Attachment-based
• Internal Family Systems (IFS)
• Motivational Interviewing
• Sand Tray
• Sex Therapy
• Trauma Focused Therapy

Concerns

• Abuse/Violence
• Addiction
• Bereavement & Grief
• Crisis Intervention
• Dissociative disorders
• Drug/Substance Abuse
• Gender Identity Issues
• Life purpose and meaning
• Relationships
• Self-Harm/Suicidality
• Sexual health & dysfunction
• Stress management
• Trauma

1 years in practice

Licenses

• LMSW by New York. License number 130662
• MSW by New Jersey

Trainings

• Sand Tray by Lighthouse Counseling 2025

Average costs per session

$200

Payment Methods

• Cash
• Credit Card
• Zelle Quick Pay