Eitan Metzger, PsyD

It is the relationship that heals- Irvin Yalom

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Why Eitan Metzger, PsyD chose to be in the helping profession

I’m a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in social anxiety, relationship concerns, and couples therapy. I work with adults and couples who may be struggling with anxiety, self-doubt, difficulties in relationships, or a sense of feeling stuck in patterns they have not been able to change on their own. My clinical experience has included working with individuals across a range of concerns and life stages, as well as providing individual and couples therapy in private practice and clinical settings.

I’m drawn to this work because I find it meaningful to help people better understand themselves and the experiences that have shaped them. Often, the things we struggle with in the present make more sense when we have the opportunity to look at the bigger picture, including our relationships, past experiences, emotions, and the patterns we have developed over time. I value creating a space where people can be curious about themselves without feeling judged or pressured to have everything figured out. My hope is that through this process, people can develop a greater sense of clarity, self-understanding, and freedom in how they move through their lives and relationships.

Eitan Metzger, PsyD's approach

I see therapy as a process of making sense of your experiences, relationships, and the patterns that shape how you move through the world. My approach is warm, curious, and collaborative, with an emphasis on developing a deeper understanding of yourself rather than simply trying to eliminate symptoms. I draw primarily from psychodynamic and attachment-based approaches, while incorporating practical strategies from CBT, DBT, and exposure work when they can be helpful.

I believe you are the person who knows your experience best. My role is to bring curiosity, perspective, and a willingness to explore alongside you, while paying close attention to what feels most important in the moment. I tailor therapy to the individual rather than following a predetermined formula. This means being attentive not only to what you tell me, but also to the ways you experience yourself and others, including what unfolds within our relationship in the therapy room.

Many of the ways we think, feel, and relate to others developed for good reasons. Patterns that once helped us navigate difficult circumstances, relationships, or emotions can eventually become limiting or painful. Therapy can create space to recognize these patterns with greater compassion, understand where they come from, and consider new ways of responding. At times, this may involve exploring emotions that have felt difficult or unacceptable to acknowledge, while at other times it may involve directly practicing new behaviors and ways of relating.

Ultimately, I want therapy to help you develop a stronger sense of who you are and greater freedom in how you live your life. The goal is not simply to feel better, but to feel more connected to yourself and the people around you, to understand your patterns with greater clarity, and to develop the confidence to create relationships and a life that feel meaningful and authentic.

What you can expect from sessions with Eitan Metzger, PsyD

I think of therapy as a process of getting to know yourself more deeply. In our sessions, we’ll spend time looking at the patterns you may find yourself repeating, whether in relationships, at work, or in the way you relate to yourself. Rather than simply focusing on what is happening on the surface, I’m interested in understanding what might be underneath those patterns, including the emotions, expectations, beliefs, and past experiences that may be shaping them. From there, we can begin to think together about what you may want to understand differently or do differently.

Sessions are generally conversational and collaborative. I tend to follow your lead and pay attention to what feels most important to you, while also asking questions and offering observations when I think they may help us look at something from a different perspective. Early on, I’ll often ask a lot of questions and want to get a fuller sense of your history, relationships, and experiences. The goal is not simply to collect background information, but to understand how your past and present connect and what has shaped the way you experience yourself and others.

I also pay close attention to what happens between us in the therapy room. The way you experience me, the things that feel easy or difficult to talk about, and the ways we relate to one another can sometimes provide important insight into patterns that show up in other relationships. We can use those moments as opportunities to better understand how you connect with others and what you may need from the people in your life.

At times, therapy may involve developing practical strategies or trying something different between sessions, particularly when anxiety, avoidance, or other patterns are getting in the way of the life you want. But I don’t see therapy as simply giving you a set of tools. I want us to understand why certain patterns developed in the first place, so that change feels meaningful and lasting rather than simply putting a temporary fix on the problem.

Most importantly, I want you to come away from our work with a clearer understanding of yourself, greater freedom in how you respond to difficult situations, and a stronger sense of what you want from your relationships and your life. My hope is that therapy gives you both a deeper understanding of yourself and the ability to approach your life with more choice and confidence.

Eitan Metzger, PsyD's experience working with the Jewish community

I have experience working with individuals and families across the spectrum of Orthodox Jewish communities. My experience includes working with individuals with special needs, serving as a therapist in an Orthodox day school, and treating both individuals and couples who are observant. This experience has given me an appreciation for the diversity of backgrounds, values, and practices within the Orthodox community and the ways these can shape a person’s relationships, identity, and therapeutic experience.

I understand that a person’s Jewish background and community can be an important part of how they understand themselves and their relationships. At the same time, I recognize that there is a great deal of diversity within Orthodox Jewish communities, and that each person’s experience of their values, family, community, and religious life is different. I try to approach that experience with curiosity and respect rather than making assumptions about what it means to someone. My goal is to create a space where you can talk openly about the different parts of your life and how they intersect with your emotional well-being and relationships.

Eitan Metzger, PsyD's Book Recommendation Zone

• Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
  What does talk therapy actually feel like from the other side of the couch? Drawing from her experience as both a clinician and a therapy patient, she offers an honest, personal look at the process of therapy and how greater self understanding can become a path toward meaningful change and healing.
• The Gift of Therapy: An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients
  The culmination of master psychiatrist Dr. Irvin D. Yalom’s more than thirty-five years in clinical practice, The Gift of Therapy is a remarkable and essential guidebook that illustrates through real case studies how patients and therapists alike can get the most out of therapy.
• Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
  A practical, emotionally engaging guide to strengthening romantic relationships through seven transformative conversations. Grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy, the book helps couples understand attachment, break negative cycles, and build greater security, connection, and lasting intimacy.

Approaches

• Attachment-based
• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
• Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT)
• Psychoanalytic Therapy
• Psychodynamic Therapy

Concerns

• Anxiety
• Depression
• Dissociative disorders
• Emotion regulation
• Personality issues & disorders
• Relationships
• Trauma

9 years in practice

Licenses

• Licensed Psychologist by New York 2026. License number 028222

Degrees

• PsyD by Yeshiva University 2024

Trainings

• Emotionally Focused Therapy Externship Program by ICEEFT 2025
• Emotionally Focused Therapy Core Skills Program by ICEEFT 2025
• Couples Therapy Training and Education Program by William Alanson White Institute In-Progress

Average costs per session

$150 - $300

Payment Methods

• Sliding Scale
• Zelle Quick Pay

Insurances

• Aetna
• Cigna
• United Healthcare