Henya Gutnick

Those who matter don't care and those who care don't matter.

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Why Henya Gutnick chose to be in the helping profession

Hi, I’m Henya. If you’ve ever felt like you had to give more, be less, or be perfect just to be loved, I see you. I’ve lived that too. I grew up believing something was wrong with me, when really I just wasn’t being loved in the way I needed. That experience shaped me deeply, and it’s part of why I do this work today.

Through my own deep healing work, I was able to transform how I see myself and how I show up in relationships. Now I help women do the same. Together, we look at people-pleasing, boundaries, self-worth, and dating patterns that keep you stuck in cycles that don’t feel good.

In our work, we also go back to the younger parts of you through inner child work and begin to rebuild a sense of safety and worth from within. The goal is to help you feel more secure, confident, and aligned in who you are and how you relate to others. You don’t have to keep proving your worth. I’d love to help you come back to it.

Henya Gutnick's approach

My approach to coaching focuses on going back to the younger version of you, the part of you that first learned the beliefs, fears, and patterns you carry today. So much of what shows up now, the inner criticism, the triggers, the emotional reactions, didn’t come from nowhere. They were shaped through early experiences and the environment you grew up in.

And this doesn’t only apply to difficult or chaotic homes. Even in loving, stable environments, we can still pick up patterns that no longer serve us. Together, we begin to gently uncover and understand those patterns, without judgment, so you can finally see where they came from and why they’ve stayed with you.

From there, I help you identify your triggers and learn how to move through them instead of reacting from them. This creates a new way of living where you feel more grounded, aware, and in control of your responses. We also focus on regulating your nervous system, so you’re not constantly feeling overwhelmed or “set off” without understanding why.

Through inner child work and guided dialogue, we connect to the parts of you that were unheard, unseen, or misunderstood and begin giving them a voice. What often shows up as hyper-independence, people-pleasing, overthinking, shutting down, or perfectionism is usually protection from earlier experiences. When you begin to understand that, things start to shift in a real and lasting way. You don’t just cope better, you begin to live with more clarity, calm, and self-trust.

What you can expect from sessions with Henya Gutnick

Working with me isn’t just about talking. It’s about real, lasting transformation. Together, you begin to gain a deeper understanding of who you truly are beneath the layers of protection and coping patterns you’ve built over time.

You start to develop a felt sense of worthiness, learning to believe you are lovable and enough exactly as you are. There’s also clarity around your patterns and triggers, so you’re no longer left confused by your own reactions. Alongside that, you gain tools to regulate your emotions, helping you move through anxiety, fear, and overwhelm with more ease and steadiness.

We also build a stronger connection to your inner child, learning how to give yourself the love, safety, and validation you may not have received when you needed it. Over time, this naturally supports healthier boundaries and deeper self-trust, so you can stop overgiving and start honoring yourself in real ways.

This work helps you step out of the same repeating cycles and patterns and begin creating a life and relationships that actually feel good, safe, and aligned with who you are.

Henya Gutnick's experience working with the Jewish community

I am currently in the process of completing my coaching certification, while already bringing strong personal experience and insight into my work.

My approach is deeply rooted in my own journey. I’ve done this work myself, moving through patterns of people-pleasing, self-doubt, and feeling too much, and learning how to develop a grounded sense of self-worth and self-love. That lived experience is a big part of how I show up with clients, because I understand these patterns from the inside out, not just in theory.

Alongside my training, I’ve naturally supported women in my own life who gravitated toward me for guidance. Through those conversations and relationships, I’ve helped them build self-trust, navigate dating, and step out of patterns that were keeping them stuck. It has been a very organic part of my journey, and it continues to shape how I work.

While I will be completing my formal certification in the coming months, I believe what matters most is not just what I’ve learned, but what I’ve lived. I don’t only understand this work intellectually, I understand it because I’ve been through it myself. That allows me to meet clients with real empathy, relatability, and grounded, practical guidance.

Henya Gutnick's Book Recommendation Zone

• Attached
  A great book about attachment styles- we all have one based on how we're raised and how it affects us later in our relationships
• Getting the Love You Want
  How our childhood affects our dating and romantic relationships
• Stop People Pleasing
  Understanding the psychology behind why you feel the need to constantly please/fawn or over give

Approaches

• Inner child work
• Internal Family Systems (IFS)
• Life Coaching

Concerns

• Abuse/Violence
• Anxiety
• Dating
• Depression
• Divorce/Separation
• Emotion regulation
• Life purpose and meaning
• Parenting

1 years in practice

Degrees

• BA in Psychology by Mount Saint Vincent 2021

Trainings

• ICF Coaching Mastery by Alyssa Nobriga 2025-2026

Average costs per session

$30 - $75

Payment Methods

• Free consultation
• Zelle Quick Pay