Moshe Sokoloff

Don't focus all your energy on the one issue that's bringing you down.

Moshe Sokoloff's style

Why Moshe Sokoloff chose to be in the helping profession

Over the years, both as an educator and as a rabbi, I’ve met many people who are hurting, many people who feel alone, and many who were simply never given the tools to understand and handle their emotions. I’ve seen this even in the biggest and best yeshivas. There are so many wonderful boys and girls who don’t know what to do with their emotions, how to process them, or sometimes even how to experience them. As a result, they may not be living life to its fullest or experiencing the happiness, self-awareness, and deep personal connections that could be available to them.

I believe that helping someone emotionally is almost as important as helping someone physically. Someone with a broken arm needs a doctor, and someone who feels emotionally unregulated, disconnected, sad, depressed, or lost is also in pain and needs support. A person may have a large circle of friends and family but still feel that no one is truly hearing them, listening to them, validating them, and helping them figure out what comes next. I want to help people navigate those feelings and hardships so that they do not feel they have to go through them alone.

My goal is to help Jews make the most of whatever situation or stage of life they are in. I want them to recognize that even after painful experiences, disappointments, and hardships, there is still a way forward. Life can be great and meaningful, even when it does not feel that way in the moment. Sometimes, a person simply needs someone to help them find that path again.

Moshe Sokoloff's approach

My approach to coaching has two important parts. First, I want to hear the concerns and pain of the person sitting in front of me and genuinely understand what they are going through. I want people to feel heard, validated, and reassured that they are not crazy for feeling the way they do. Their emotions are real, their pain matters, and they should not have to explain or defend everything they are experiencing.

At the same time, I do not want to only listen and leave the person in the same place. Once we understand and legitimize the feelings, pain, and hardship, the next step is to create a plan. We look at how to manage the situation, cope with the pain, and move forward from past experiences that may still be affecting their life. I believe there needs to be a balance between understanding what happened and deciding what can be done now.

I do not want someone to spend session after session bringing up the same pain and talking about it endlessly without getting anywhere. There should be real movement toward making things better, creating a better future, and building a happier and more fulfilling life. Sometimes that begins with understanding where an issue is coming from, and sometimes it means focusing on the next practical step. My goal is to help each person better understand what they are experiencing while also giving them the tools and direction to do something about it.

What you can expect from sessions with Moshe Sokoloff

What I hope to create with each client is a relationship in which they feel they have someone they can truly talk to. I want to be someone who will listen, understand, relate to them, and take their struggles seriously. My goal is for people to feel comfortable being honest about what is happening in their lives without worrying that they will be judged or misunderstood. They should know that they can speak openly about what they are feeling, even when those feelings are difficult to put into words.

I want to be compassionate and understanding, but I also want each person to walk out of every session with something meaningful. Hopefully, they leave with one or two new realizations about where an issue may be coming from, what may be keeping it in place, and what we can begin doing to improve it. I do not want to spend session after session talking without creating movement. Even if the change is gradual, there should be a sense that we are working toward something together.

Sometimes, understanding the source of a struggle is the first important step. Other times, we may need to focus immediately on the next move and create a practical plan for going forward. In either case, I want clients to leave feeling that their situation makes more sense and that they are not facing it alone. Ultimately, my goal is to help each person move out of the situation they are in and toward a healthier, happier, and more hopeful place.

Moshe Sokoloff's experience working with the Jewish community

I have worked with many different types of people, including those who are older, younger, single, married, divorced, and widowed. I have worked with men and women from different backgrounds and at many different stages and positions in life. Through both my rabbinic work and my years as an educator, I have had the opportunity to listen to people facing many kinds of personal and emotional challenges. The common denominator I have seen is that everyone, at some point in life, struggles with something.

Sometimes, a person may feel as though the world is closing in on them and the end is all they can see. In those moments, they may need someone who understands their world and can help them navigate that difficult part of life. They need someone who can help them recognize that what they are going through does not have to be the end of the line. Even when a situation feels overwhelming or impossible, it is still possible to find a better way forward.

Baruch Hashem, I have seen people work through extremely difficult periods and begin to find hope again. I have seen that not all hope is lost, even when someone cannot yet see the light at the end of the tunnel. There is a future, and there can be a way to break through what feels impossible right now. Together, we can work through the struggle, navigate past it, and begin moving toward a brighter tomorrow.

Moshe Sokoloff's Book Recommendation Zone

• 10 Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make By Ben Tzion Shafier
  The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make will give you a new level of understanding for what makes a marriage work.
• From Boys to Men: Guiding Our Sons And Students In The Ways Of Kedushah by Dr. Shloimie Zimmerman
  A book that integrates the Torah’s wisdom and cutting-edge psychological research to provide a comprehensive approach to educating and supporting our sons and students regarding: health and safety, puberty, marital intimacy, and today’s challenges to kedushah.
• Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb PhD
  This informative guide helps you identify and heal from childhood emotional neglect so you can be more connected and emotionally present in your life.

Approaches

• Certified Chosson Teacher
• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
• Couples Counseling
• Gottman Method
• Life Coaching
• Logotherapy
• Premarital Counseling

Concerns

• Addiction
• Crisis Intervention
• Dating
• Divorce/Separation
• Drug/Substance Abuse
• Relationships
• Religious Identity Issues
• Sexual health & dysfunction

12 years in practice

Certificates

• Viktor Frankel Transformation Life Coaching 2026

Trainings

• Marriage Essential Presenter Trainer Program by Shalom workshops Pairs Training 2013

Average costs per session

$150

Payment Methods

• Sliding Scale
• Free consultation
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