Shloimy Ekstien, Coach

It might be hard to take care of your relationships but it's much harder not to.

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Shloimy Ekstien, Coach's style

Why Shloimy Ekstien, Coach chose to be in the helping profession

I’ve always been drawn to people, their struggles, their relationships, and the quiet challenges they carry that others may never see. Over time, I became more and more aware of how much confusion and pain so many individuals and couples experience, especially around dating, marriage, and family life. There are so many moments where people feel lost, stuck, or alone with their questions. I wanted to be someone who could sit with them in those moments and help bring more clarity, stability, and support. That pull toward helping people in this way is what led me to the work I do today.

I have also gone through my own challenges and growth in relationships, and those experiences continue to shape how I show up. They taught me compassion, patience, and a deep understanding of what people are often going through behind the scenes, even when things look fine on the outside. This has inspired me to guide others with real sensitivity and respect, while still being honest and grounded. My goal is to help people build healthier, more meaningful relationships with themselves and with the people they care about. Being able to support others in these areas gives me a strong sense of purpose and meaning every single day.

Shloimy Ekstien, Coach's approach

My approach is down-to-earth, practical, and focused on real results. I listen deeply to what a person is going through and together we try to get to the core issues behind the surface problem. I do not believe in overwhelming people with complicated theories or fancy language. I believe in clarity, simplicity, and small steps that actually fit into real life and bring real change over time.

In our work, I combine emotional understanding with very clear guidance. People come to me because they want direction, not just a place to vent and walk away the same. I help them notice patterns, understand themselves better, and learn tools they can use right away in their marriage, dating, or family life. Above all, I try to create a safe, non-judgmental space where people can be honest, feel supported, and not feel rushed or pressured. My goal is that each person leaves feeling a little stronger, a little calmer, and more confident in the choices they make.

What you can expect from sessions with Shloimy Ekstien, Coach

In our sessions, you can expect honesty, clarity, and a calm space where you feel fully heard. I try to get to the point gently but directly, so you are not left feeling lost or confused about what we are working on. We will talk things through in a clear, straightforward way, and I will check in with you to make sure it all feels practical and doable. My hope is that you walk away with real tools, clear guidance, and simple steps you can start using right away in your marriage, dating, or family life.

I am not here to judge or criticize you. I am here to understand you, support you, and help you see things from new angles that may not have felt accessible before. My style is interactive, which means we are both involved in the process. We explore what is really happening beneath the surface and figure out a healthy, effective plan together. Most people tell me they feel lighter, clearer, and more empowered after each session, and my goal is that you feel supported, understood, and on a steady path toward real change.

Shloimy Ekstien, Coach's experience working with the Jewish community

I’ve spent many years working closely with individuals, couples, and parents within the Jewish and especially the Chassidic community. Because I understand the culture, the values, the sensitivities, and the unique pressures our community faces, I can guide people in a way that feels comfortable and respectful. People do not have to explain every detail or background piece, which lets us get to the heart of the issue more quickly. There is a natural familiarity and shared language that helps the work feel safe and grounded.

Much of my work focuses on marriage, shidduchim, family dynamics, and communication, areas where people often need both clarity and someone who really gets the system. I have supported parents through the shidduch process, guided many couples toward healthier and more stable relationships, and helped individuals navigate personal challenges in a way that aligns with their beliefs and lifestyle. Clients often tell me they appreciate that I speak their language, understand their world, and offer guidance that fits within their values. It is a real privilege to support my own community and to help people build stronger, calmer, and happier homes.

Shloimy Ekstien, Coach's Book Recommendation Zone

• Hold Me Tight
  a powerful and accessible framework for deepening the emotional bond between romantic partners.
• 5 Love Languages
  each of us has a preferred “language” we speak when it comes to receiving and giving love
• Outwitting The Devil
  Outwitting the Devil presents a bold and provocative conversation between Hill (as “Mr. Earthbound”) and “Your Majesty” (the Devil), in which Hill extracts the hidden obstacles that prevent people from fulfilling their purpose.

Shloimy Ekstien, Coach is facilitator of:

Approaches

• Couples Counseling
• Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
• Internal Family Systems (IFS)

Concerns

• Abuse/Violence
• Dating
• Divorce/Separation
• Relationships

11 years in practice

Average costs per session

$375

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