A client of mine (let’s call her Bella) faced a stressful challenge that many of us can relate to: her in-laws were planning to stay with her for an entire week. While she appreciates them, the thought of hosting for that long felt overwhelming.
Bella thrives on alone time to recharge. Plus, certain family members have personalities that can feel draining or hard to connect with. The idea of managing her home, emotions, and relationships all at once filled her with anxiety.
As we worked through her concerns, Bella discovered something powerful: hosting doesn’t mean she has to completely sacrifice herself. Together, we crafted a simple but effective plan:
✨ Setting Boundaries with Love: Bella learned how to communicate her needs gently but clearly. She planned specific times to step away for alone time—whether by taking a walk or enjoying a quiet moment in her room.
✨ Focusing on Strengths: Bella’s warm, empathetic, and personable nature is one of her biggest strengths. Instead of fixating on what felt difficult, she leaned into this to create an environment where her in-laws felt cared for in ways that were true to her.
✨ Reframing Difficult Moments: We practiced non-defensive strategies for navigating uncomfortable conversations or interactions, tapping into helpful responses--such as validating others, staying curious, being patient, and grounding herself in her values. We also talked about when it’s okay to disengage or let go entirely, and how to communicate a boundary.
When the week arrived, Bella felt more prepared than ever before. Were there challenges? Of course! But this time, she faced them with confidence. By the end of the visit, Bella was pleasantly surprised by how much she actually enjoyed the time with her in-laws—and even built deeper connections with some family members she’d previously struggled with.
Have a difficult relationship or situation you’re struggling with?
Don’t just surrender to anxiety! Instead, rise to the challenge by thoughtfully creating a plan of action. Reflect on your options and how you can best prepare to overcome them.
It’s not as hard as you think! Believe in yourself—and if you need help, I’m here for you. 😊
