Many people unwittingly undermine the emotional intimacy in their relationship because they are attached to a result, such as approval or agreement, and feel as if they can’t live without it.
This leads to some ugly behaviors and habits that kill the feeling of connection in the relationship.
When this happens, the partner tends to withdraw and mentally check out of the relationship (especially guys).
So, what is the solution?
Allow your partner to say no. Sincerely give your partner the choice to not go along with your plan.
This causes him or her to feel that their desire or opinion are important to you. It makes them feel respected and that your relationship isn’t a one-way street.
Why don’t we do this naturally?
The fear that some people have with this is that its vulnerable. After all, what if your partner actually does say no?
I’d like to invite you to consider that this sort of vulnerability is actually the fertile ground from which healthy intimate connection can grow.
For more on this topic of vulnerability, stay tuned for my next article, which goes in depth on how to be vulnerable and bring more passion and connection into your relationship...
Give your Partner the Space to say No
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Eli Deutsch
Relationship Expert
"I find that one of the biggest downfalls for couples today is a breakdown in the male female dynamic within their relationship. Men often act from a place of weakness instead of from initiative, follow through, and emotional …
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