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Living with someone who hurts you is awful. Why are they doing that? Do they get pleasure out of it? Do they have a “need” for power and control? Or…

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What, DrDeb? People who cheat are scared? Are you kidding? It takes guts to cheat! Cheating means going after what you want! Nice rationalizing, friend! Actually, you’ll hear the opposite…

“Huh, DrDeb?” some readers must be thinking. And then probably other readers are thinking, “Yessss! Told ya my anger is good!” See, your anger – whether you love having it…

One way to feel is, “My God, if the governments of this world can’t figure it out, how are we individuals supposed to?” But I’m proposing the opposite: “Because the…

Why is it some people benefit from books and videos – like this one – and make amazing changes? And others don’t? The ones who don’t still do listen, like,…

It sure does come up often:  "Why can't they listen?" "Why can't they show me the same courtesy and care that I show to them?" "Why do they tell me…

Thank you for the suggestion of this topic!! You know who you are! If you've been reading my blog here for a while, you know to expect the unexpected. So…

What Creates Intimacy In Your Marriage? Well, let's start with a couple questions that need to come first…. What Is Intimacy? "I know that town intimately well," Bob said. "After…

Why Gas-lighting Is Crazymaking The original story of gaslighting, a 1938 British play, was made into a 1944 movie called Gas Light. A man wishes to make his wife think…

Thank you to two people who requested this topic. It's the old complaint of, "Why can't we communicate?" Here's the short answer: Because the "we" in that sentence isn't actually…

This is how the quick-fix-er marriage gurus get you: They assure you that you can fix things in 8 weeks or 30 days or <gasp!> just 7 days or <outrageous!>…

Therapy actually can be short. Here's the combo you need: 1. an excellent therapist (do a search in the group or on my blog of "what makes a good therapist"…

“I know I can stand up for myself. I know exactly what to say. I’ve practiced it in front of the mirror a thousand times!” Carrie said. “But when it…

In the last years that my husband was alive, he’d gotten paranoid. (Later, I put the pieces together and realized that he’d had Frontal-Temporal dementia.) We would have long talks…

“With all due respect, DrDeb,” he started out, [Uh-oh, it’s trouble when they start out that way.] “I’ve known my wife for 25 years and I know what I’m talking…

“But This Is Who I Am!”   “Can’t you be nicer?” Maddy asked, one eyebrow furrowed and one raised as if she really were asking a question.   Steve knew…