Tamara Gestetner, LMFT

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Why Tamara Gestetner, LMFT chose to be in the helping profession

Watching friends go through a divorce was heartbreaking. The process was long, drawn out, and full of pain. It didn’t have to be that way. I saw firsthand how communication could break down, leading to unnecessary conflict and tension. It made me realize that there must be a better way—one where empathy, compassion, and understanding are at the core of every conversation.

I felt called to help. I recognized that if people had the right support, and if communication during divorce was handled with more emotional awareness, the entire process could be smoother, less damaging, and even amicable. Divorce is already challenging without adding layers of hostility. By bringing a more thoughtful approach to the table, I knew I could help couples navigate their emotions and the logistics with less pain.

Ultimately, it's about more than just the couple—children, families, and even future relationships benefit when divorce is approached with care and respect. Helping people move through this difficult life transition in a way that fosters healing, rather than further hurt, is something I knew I had to be part of.

Tamara Gestetner, LMFT's approach

My approach to therapy is rooted in empathy and a deep commitment to supporting people through some of the most challenging times of their lives. I aim to guide my clients with grace, while encouraging them to maintain a growth mindset, even in moments when it feels hardest to do so. Throughout the process, I hold them to a higher standard—not as a form of pressure, but as a reminder of their potential and strength.

When working with clients, my goal is to help them stay grounded, keeping a firm grip on their identity, even as life shifts around them. For some, that means maintaining a sense of self in the midst of change; for others, it involves navigating an identity shift and stepping into a new version of themselves. In both cases, I’m there to provide guidance, helping them honor who they are while growing into who they are becoming.

What you can expect from sessions with Tamara Gestetner, LMFT

In our sessions, you can expect to reach a higher level of self-awareness and clarity. Together, we will work on maintaining your inner peace and sanity, even as you face one of life's most difficult transitions. I focus on helping you move forward, so you don’t feel stuck or stagnant, guiding you to make empowered decisions that align with your values.

By addressing the emotional and practical challenges head-on, we'll free up your energy, allowing you to approach the process without getting lost in unnecessary drama or petty fights. One of the key goals is to collapse time, so the divorce process doesn’t drag on endlessly. Instead, we’ll work together to speed things up in a way that feels right for you, helping you make faster, aligned decisions that are in tune with your long-term well-being and goals.

Tamara Gestetner, LMFT's experience working with the Jewish community

I’ve had the privilege of working with couples in the Jewish community who are navigating significant relationship challenges—whether they were striving to strengthen their marriage or moving through the divorce process. In these situations, I’ve helped guide them through difficult conversations, focusing on improving communication, fostering understanding, and making joint decisions that honor both partners' perspectives.

Working within the cultural context of the Jewish community, I recognize the unique dynamics and values that often come into play. My approach has always been to help couples come to agreements faster, with less conflict, while respecting the traditions and shared experiences that are important to them. Whether it’s working through a relationship or finding a way to part with dignity, I strive to create a space where decisions are made thoughtfully and with a sense of purpose.

Tamara Gestetner, LMFT's Book Recommendation Zone

• Getting to Yes
• The Mindful Guide to Conflict Resolution
• Never Split the Difference

16 years in practice

Licences

• Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist by NYS 2013. License number 001018-1

Certificates

• Divorce Mediation Certificate Program by Susan Deveney 2023

Trainings

• Mediation Basic Training by Phoneix Dispute Resolutions 2023

Average costs per session

$175 - $350

Payment Methods

• Free consultation
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