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    • It’s amazing how well attuned you are to your emotions ! It’s a great level to be so aware . I believe we get to loving ourselves , when we accept that only we are in charge of our happiness and searching within what moments truly make us happy that is not in relation to another person and making self care a top priority !! For example when…Read More

    • I agree with Fay , her wisdom and deep intellect really hit the mark here . From a non prof view I would say perhaps lower your expectations of ppl ..usually when we expect so much from others is when we tend to hurt ourselves the most . Relationship s tend to thrive when there is peace , freedom for others to be themselves and calmness .

      No one…Read More

    • Wow your reply has brought tears as I can so relate…I also realize that as an empath and person that prob has codependent tendencies..Im a prime target for some how connecting narcisstic ppl to get attached too..I had to realize and accept that I enable as well for allowing others to treat me as such bec Im so trusting …its a two side…Read More

    • Ty Levi , your words are steeped with wisdom and compassion . Its deeply therapeutic to have such a forum that gives a voice to what lies painful inside !!

    • Ty Chavy , Im sure the therapists on.board here can better answer those q for you …Here I was under the thumb of a very dominant friend which led to me writing this article ..

    • My biggest cheerleader!! Ty , you humble me !!! Its integral we use this forum.to voice our struggles so much help out there we dont have to keep it inside !! Even if its just to.read silently !!! No reason to ever feel alone in anything !!! yes this has been a emot taxing time.and I still.dont have peace..very hard bec you cant get closure from.a…Read More

    • zissy wrote a new post 1 month ago

      Surviving a Narcissistic Friendship

      Let’s be honest over here: no one chooses to call themself a survivor. Yet in reality it’s probably the bravest position one can be in. Of course there are many ways one can become “a survivor.” Today I’m giving myself…

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      • My biggest cheerleader!! Ty , you humble me !!! Its integral we use this forum.to voice our struggles so much help out there we dont have to keep it inside !! Even if its just to.read silently !!! No reason to ever feel alone in anything !!! yes this has been a emot taxing time.and I still.dont have peace..very hard bec you cant get closure from.a narcissist , but with the support and love from true friends I am hopeful I can over come iyh !

      • This was so well written! I have 1 question: I find myself saying “yes, yes” to a few things mentioned in the article, but I don’t think I would call myself narcissistic . I’m just having trouble identifying where i stand in this article, if I do at all. Do you know what the symptoms of a narcissistic person is?
        Thank you Zissy!!

        • Ty Chavy , Im sure the therapists on.board here can better answer those q for you …Here I was under the thumb of a very dominant friend which led to me writing this article ..

      • Ty Levi , your words are steeped with wisdom and compassion . Its deeply therapeutic to have such a forum that gives a voice to what lies painful inside !!

      • Wow your reply has brought tears as I can so relate…I also realize that as an empath and person that prob has codependent tendencies..Im a prime target for some how connecting narcisstic ppl to get attached too..I had to realize and accept that I enable as well for allowing others to treat me as such bec Im so trusting …its a two side equation..However Im learning and growing and while I cannot fathom or wrap my head around such cruel.and selfish and unkind traits in those that masqueraded as.best friends..It only motivated me to be a more.loving gentle person to those who truly value me.

      • Yes, that is so true. I am a deeply feeling person. I truly feel others joy and pain. But oh how I have been burnt by people. I am slowly learning how to filter out the people who are authentic and real and i am trying to connect to those people. I am also a co dependent person who loves to help others and that is part of the trap. I need to realize that i first need to help myself before I help others. It is such a tricky balance and one that i am trying so hard to learn…..

        • Ya, co dependent is very very tricky. It’s confusing to tease out the difference of if the action is beneficial both ways or if it’s just to feel good about yourself. Like, if we’re helping others more than we can bc we’re trying to fill ourselves up. It’s a balance..

      • So true. Everything in life is about balancing. It is something that I constantly work on. It is a lifetime struggle. But the more we excercise the better at it we become.

      • This is great! Thank you so much for sharing! It’s so important to remember that “The only person who can define you is you”, especially since it’s easy to feel like it’s not the case. Too often, we rely on others for validation and value, when we should have the inner clarity to know that we are special, important, and deserve to be treated that way.

    • I applaud Bariana for her opening up a topic that is so personal and sharing her thoughts and inner struggle..When I lost my son Emunah was one of the biggest parts of me to get affected …then came the anxiety of omg zc are you even a jew ….Forums like these are so crucial..I wish I would have had it then.so I wouldnt have felt so alone in my…Read More

    • Ty so much !!! That touches me.deeply !!😊

    • ty ! However many are in therapy and on meds and all the right channels and when I spoke highly of all the amazing benefits ..the response is the same at the end of day our realities dont change even with all that ….I try explaining how there is no magic wand to wizard away a better life …just by having these tools we can navigate through it…Read More

    • ….exactly I do not know the difference when its sers or not ..and as some one who deals with many ..I do not always know the family members…many times such lines get dropped of suicide and wishes of not getting up next day ..and I do not know what my role is

    • I have had a woman tell me ..after I tried so hard to listen and be supportive and validate ..how I will never understand…there is no light at the end of the tunnel ..then I realized that she didn’t want my advice or anything that can make her feel better ..she just wanted me to listen

    • the q is how do we know when to call or not ..so many talk of depression etc ..when do we know when to get concerned

    • it made me feel so sad bec I thought so what’s the big deal ..we all know preg has crazy hormones ..so its a period of time no one talks about ..when its just the same illness as one who suffers any other preg related illness

    • So inspiring!! I had a family member who suffered ppd and it was such a taboo topic at that time ..I remember wishing I would understand so I would know how to help her ..but it was so hidden that I just had to pretend instead of offering my help

    • Your words touch me deeply to my core….tears come.easily as your friendship has always been a beacon of light through out this journey !! One cannot go through lifes challanges without the support of good freinds who tenderly hold thier hearts and world.tog !!! Ty for always being there !$

    • Ty ! Your support always means so much !

    • Ty for your touching sentiments !

    • Ty your kind words touch deeply

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